Are You Trying To Decide If You Should Have Kids Or Not?
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Start By Asking Yourself These 3 Important Questions:
1. Do your life goals, plans and desires conflict with or complement being a parent?
A. Complement
B. A little of both
C. Conflict
2. Are you making this decision based purely on what you want, without being influenced by what others or society want or expect of you?
A. Yes
B. Maybe
C. Unsure / No
3. When you think of having kids or a childfree life, do you associate one or the other with more happiness and meaning for you?
A. More happiness and meaning with having kids
B. Either / Not sure
C. More happiness and meaning with staying childfree (your sense of meaning coming from other areas such as travel or career)
A. Complement
B. A little of both
C. Conflict
2. Are you making this decision based purely on what you want, without being influenced by what others or society want or expect of you?
A. Yes
B. Maybe
C. Unsure / No
3. When you think of having kids or a childfree life, do you associate one or the other with more happiness and meaning for you?
A. More happiness and meaning with having kids
B. Either / Not sure
C. More happiness and meaning with staying childfree (your sense of meaning coming from other areas such as travel or career)
If you answered 'A' to all three questions: You are leaning more towards having kids but seem to be in a good frame of mind to consider either option - parenthood or a childfree path - you are thinking clearly and from a healthy viewpoint. Perhaps certain fears or challenges are the main blocks to feeling confident in choosing your future path.
If you answered 'B' to one or more questions: More consideration is needed. Even though you may want kids to some degree, your decision-making is influenced by external factors and/or unhealthy motivating reasons. It would be helpful for you to explore further any problematic internal and external factors that are influencing your thoughts and feelings and complicating your ability to clearly see what choice would be the best one for you - children or not.
If you answered 'C' to one or more questions: Your decision about whether to have kids or not is complicated by different factors. Get further help to work through any concerns & complications, and explore your motivating reasons, influences, and fears in more depth to help clarify which path would be best for you - kids or not.
If you answered 'B' to one or more questions: More consideration is needed. Even though you may want kids to some degree, your decision-making is influenced by external factors and/or unhealthy motivating reasons. It would be helpful for you to explore further any problematic internal and external factors that are influencing your thoughts and feelings and complicating your ability to clearly see what choice would be the best one for you - children or not.
If you answered 'C' to one or more questions: Your decision about whether to have kids or not is complicated by different factors. Get further help to work through any concerns & complications, and explore your motivating reasons, influences, and fears in more depth to help clarify which path would be best for you - kids or not.
For a more detailed answer & more accurate result, consider the comprehensive Should I Have Kids QUIZ (with 35 questions covering 6 key areas & automatically calculated results). It is available as part of the Self-Help Program which guides you step-by-step to discover the best choice for you - kids or not (see link below).
Need more help? Choose from one of the four options below:
Quizzes
Two comprehensive quizzes:
1. Should I Have Kids Quiz 2. Do I Want Kids Quiz To help you explore: Do I really want kids? Is having children for me? |
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