The Ultimate Guide To Making Your Decision
Discover the right choice for you -
having children or staying childfree
This comprehensive & professionally written eBook is filled with advice, strategies & information that will help you to get clear and end your confusion.
6 essential steps will help you to figure out the best choice for you and answer:
Do I really want kids?
Should I have kids or stay childfree?
Access to the book is instant! And it is in PDF format so it is readable on any computer or device
Find out more about what's in the eBook (including the 6 key steps) below
"My thoughts and feelings about whether to have a child were so muddled and conflicted. I kept going around in circles and wasn't getting anywhere on my own. The book gave me the missing pieces I needed to make sense of everything so I could finally see clearly what I really wanted and what decision was right for me."
- Jenna T (Vancouver, Canada)
- Jenna T (Vancouver, Canada)
The Six Steps In The eBook
STEP 1
Figuring out who you are and what you want for your life:
- Personality type
- Strengths & weaknesses
- Values
- Life Goals
- The driving purpose and individual meaning(s) of your life
- A Meaningful life and/or happiness
- Identifying if your meaning(s) of life are more aligned with parenthood or a childfree future
STEP 2
Exploring how a child might change different aspects of your life:
- Evaluating your current life and how satisfied you are
- Considering how a child would impact you and the different areas of your life, and how well you would adapt to these changes:
STEP 3
Evaluating your motivating reasons for wanting a child or staying childfree:
- Identifying your motivating reasons
- Evaluating motivating reasons:
STEP 4
Other aspects that are influencing you and your decision:
- Identifying the fears, obstacles or challenges that are influencing your decision
- Fears and about parenthood or staying childfree
- Fear of the unknown
- Locus of control
- The importance of knowing your locus of control for this decision
- Dealing with anxiety and fear
- Beliefs, expectations & assumptions of parenthood vs childfree
- Questioning your beliefs, expectations & assumptions about parenthood ad living childfree
- Identifying which beliefs, expectations & assumptions are positive and negative
- External pressures and influences
- Relationship complications:
STEP 5
Making your decision:
- Considering being a single parent
- Non-traditional parenthood & other options for having children as part of your life
- Considering traditional parenthood
- Considering staying childfree
- Decision-making
- Evaluating the pros & cons, opportunities and challenges
- Which should rule - my heart, my head or my gut instinct
- Valuations of future possibilities
- Weighing everything up
- The decision-making process: breaking it down into steps
- Where to now...
STEP 6
Going forward with peace and confidence in your decision:
- Moving forward with a plan
- Dealing with fear, doubts, or regrets, if they surface
- Dealing with the opinions, expectations and pressures of others
- Going forward with peace and confidence in your decision if you choose a childfree path
- Going forward with peace and confidence in your decision if you choose to have a child/children
- Acceptance
Figuring out who you are and what you want for your life:
- Personality type
- Strengths & weaknesses
- Values
- Life Goals
- The driving purpose and individual meaning(s) of your life
- A Meaningful life and/or happiness
- Identifying if your meaning(s) of life are more aligned with parenthood or a childfree future
STEP 2
Exploring how a child might change different aspects of your life:
- Evaluating your current life and how satisfied you are
- Considering how a child would impact you and the different areas of your life, and how well you would adapt to these changes:
- Age & Timing
- Health – physical & mental
- Relationship health & readiness
- Leisure & time to yourself, freedom & independence
- Work/Career/Education
- Finances
- Practical aspects
- Support
STEP 3
Evaluating your motivating reasons for wanting a child or staying childfree:
- Identifying your motivating reasons
- Evaluating motivating reasons:
- 'Fear of missing out’
- 'To be happy or happier'
- ‘I’m happy with my life and/or relationship the way it is and don't want it to change’
- 'I'll be lonely when I'm old if I don't have children'
- 'It is what I was born to do'
- ‘To feel loved’
- 'I don't particularly like babies or kids'
- ‘Will I regret not having children later on?’
- ‘Feeling left out’
STEP 4
Other aspects that are influencing you and your decision:
- Identifying the fears, obstacles or challenges that are influencing your decision
- Fears and about parenthood or staying childfree
- Fear of the unknown
- Locus of control
- The importance of knowing your locus of control for this decision
- Dealing with anxiety and fear
- Beliefs, expectations & assumptions of parenthood vs childfree
- Questioning your beliefs, expectations & assumptions about parenthood ad living childfree
- Identifying which beliefs, expectations & assumptions are positive and negative
- External pressures and influences
- Relationship complications:
- My partner doesn't know if he/she wants kids, or isn't ready yet, or definitely doesn't want kids (or any more kids if they already have children from a previous relationship) OR VICE VERSA – that is, you’re the one who isn’t sure if you want kids
- I'm not sure if our relationship would cope with having a child, and/or that my partner would make a good parent, and/or I’m concerned that it would have a negative effect on our relationship
STEP 5
Making your decision:
- Considering being a single parent
- Non-traditional parenthood & other options for having children as part of your life
- Considering traditional parenthood
- Considering staying childfree
- Decision-making
- Evaluating the pros & cons, opportunities and challenges
- Which should rule - my heart, my head or my gut instinct
- Valuations of future possibilities
- Weighing everything up
- The decision-making process: breaking it down into steps
- Where to now...
STEP 6
Going forward with peace and confidence in your decision:
- Moving forward with a plan
- Dealing with fear, doubts, or regrets, if they surface
- Dealing with the opinions, expectations and pressures of others
- Going forward with peace and confidence in your decision if you choose a childfree path
- Going forward with peace and confidence in your decision if you choose to have a child/children
- Acceptance
Find Answers To Your Questions...
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This eBook will help you answer the difficult questions you may be struggling with such as:
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