We are passionate and dedicated to helping women and men all around the world who are unsure about whether to have kids or not. We support people in reaching a clear and confident decision by providing information and advice, and utilizing effective strategies that evoke deep insights and clarity so that people can discover which future path is best for them - parenthood or staying childfree.
Created by a coach who was driven by her own personal experience with this difficult decision, and because of her background in counseling, she discovered a way to make the process simpler and easier for others, and effective ways to lead people to the best choice for them - having children or not.
There are many aspects to consider when questioning whether you want to have children and we know how hard and confusing the decision-making process can be.
It's often too difficult to find the answers on your own: Do I really want children? Why do I want a child? Will I regret it later if I choose to stay childfree? What are valid reasons not to have kids?
We understand that your indecision and not knowing what to do can be very confusing, scary, isolating and stressful. You might feel guilty or embarrassed to tell others that you are questioning whether to have kids because society often labels this ambivalence as unnatural (but we assure you it's not! In fact it is a smart and healthy thing to do!). And those that you do tell may be pressuring you to do what they want you to do, but that might not be what is truly the best path for you.
Many people (especially women) are driven to believe that having children is their main purpose in life and the only way to find true fulfillment, meaning and happiness. But we don't believe that's true at all. In this modern age, we have purpose and value far beyond being child-rearers. And that is not to say we diminish the importance of parenting - quite the opposite - if you choose to have a child.
And that is the main point - that we have a choice - and we should feel empowered to be able to chose otherwise, such as a childfree life if we feel that is the best path for us, not made to feel less of a woman, or human being, because of that choice.
So our wish for you is to discover which future path is best for you and come to a decision you feel confident in. And we are here to help as we are passionate and committed to helping anyone who is struggling with this complex and emotional decision.
We currently offer four types of assistance - quizzes, articles, coaching, as well as our successful Kids or Not - The Ultimate Guide to Making the Right Decision for You. These options offer different choices of resources so you can select what best suits you.
We sincerely hope we can provide you with at least some of the information and support you are seeking to help you find clarity in your decision of whether to have children or stay childfree.
Founder & Coach
Kids or Not